Since I spent my high school days as a student government kid, I’m currently cramming in extra hours post work and during daily life to help plan and promote my 10-year high school reunion. It’s crazy it’s been 10 years already. Amidst flipping the pages of my senior yearbook and accepting that I live a very different live than the one I had planned for myself when my whole life was this school and these pages, I randomly and suddenly remember a scene from the WB’s hit show Dawson’s Creek. This particular scene is more vivid than others and doesn’t even include any of the leading stars. Here’s how I remember it:
Dawson’s dad discovers that his wife, the love of his life, has been hiking her pencil skirt up for a co-worker. He tells her, while standing on a bridge, probably near the creek, that he remembers falling in love with her. I remember how inspired, and heartbroken, it made me feel.
He then proceeds to tell her, and with an impressive amount of strength considering the situation, that he just fell out of love with her – and not a single thing about it is empowering.
When this episode aired, my parents had already divorced and my boyfriend was a dick. This scene has resonated with and bewildered me ever since.
How in the world can someone pinpoint the exact moment his or her heart quit yearning for another? And why did they let is stop? I’m not questioning the ability to fall out of love; I am just genuinely awe-struck by the fact that someone can recognize the exact moment. The only firm recollection I have of truly “falling out of love” with something I absolutely dug are things like: Taco Bell after having eaten it twice daily throughout freshman year at ASU, or MySpace once I was introduced to Facebook, or pineapple mind erasers after four too many mornings of not really recalling the night prior. I don’t need any of those things ever again. But loving a person, I will always want that.
I’m a Libra – I’m said to be in love with love. I have had several boyfriends. And like my four-times-married great grandmother was once quoted, “I loved them all for their differences.” I’ve just always been guilty of allowing a love affair to slowly wither away, similar to the way I keep dead, welted bouquets of flowers on my table for days longer than I should – I keep them, although scentless and completely color deprived, simply because I love having flowers in my home.
Some people pray for clarity. Those are the patient ones. Others are impulsive and say precisely how they feel when they feel it, and act decidedly so. Me, the Libra, is somewhere balancing in the middle searching for inspiration as if it were a dim fishing boat in the middle of a dark, raging sea. The boat just keeps floating forward because it’s hopeful that there’s calm just over that wave. But what if the boat is going the wrong way? A Libra might wonder if the journey is wrong, but the destination, that being love, will always be right. A Libra leans into love, even if she falls.